- Asking you for financial information.
Never give out your financial information to someone you’ve met on an online dating site or app. EVER! Seems simple right? Well, it may seem like common sense to keep your information to yourself, but scammers can be convincing. Don’t do it.
- Asking for money This can start out very innocently. A few bucks here and there could seem like nothing when you’re in love with someone. But it can quickly ramp up. A common request for money can involve the scammer coming to visit the victim. They might say they need money for flights or other expenses. Other large sums might be requested for investing in a business or for medical costs. The urgency of these demands tends to ramp up and can even become threatening.
- If you are asked to send money and feel so inclined, run the whole scenario by someone you trust. Choose a friend or ask a one of our staff members who is less emotionally invested than you are. Be open to their perspective. And remember: If the request for funds is indeed a scam, it will be practically impossible to ever recover the money.
- Pressuring you for your phone number, email, or other contact information. Don’t do it. It’s easier for them to avoid detection if they don’t use the dating site to communicate with you.
- Refusing to meet in person or talk on the phone.
They Insist on taking the conversation off of the dating service (e.g., asking to text or email or messenger). Does he or she ignore you when you ask to meet in person?
- Ask them to meet up. Scammers will never meet you in person, and they will usually express reluctance to do so when asked. If the person with whom you're talking either outright refuses to meet you or bails on your plans multiple times in a row, they're most likely a scammer. Alternatively, the person may ask you to pay for their ticket or means of transportation.
- Note any age difference in which you are the older one. Online dating scammers usually target people older than themselves.
- Claiming to love you right away. Early or inappropriate professions of love. Often scammers will come on very strong right away and the language can be over the top and intense.
- Trying to sell you products or services or offering you a job opportunity.
If something sounds too good to be true, chances are it is. Again, talk to our staff and we can help you determine if it is scam.
- They ask you to wire them money for any reason. If they ask you to wire money to them and tell you to go to Western Union or MoneyGram or any other service – Don’t do it. If you do and the clerk warns you it might be a scam – Listen to them – It is a scam!
- They send you a check to deposit – usually via a bill payer service – then ask you to wire some of the funds back to them. The check is fraudulent. It will bounce. You will be out that amount plus whatever you wire back to them. Don’t fall for it. It is a scam.
- Asking to carry out suspicious activities For most people alarm bells would ring if someone asked them to take money or goods and pass them onto someone else they didn’t know. But this stuff happens all the time during online dating scams.
Think it can’t happen to you? Wrong. It can and does happen to people every day. Doctors, lawyers, factory workers. People with lots of money. People with no money. The scammers don’t care. They will manipulate your emotions to get you to do what they want.
It recently happened to one of our members.
This member is out between $10,000 and $20,000.
Please don’t be their next victim.
Although you might be embarrassed, it’s important to talk to friends and relatives about these situations. They can offer support and help you get out before things go further. Additionally, when someone they know has experienced an online dating scam, they’re likely to be far more cautious themselves.
Hopefully you’ll realize that you — or your friend or relative — are being scammed before it’s too late. If so, you should report the scammer to whichever platform you met them on. You can also report the incident to your local police (especially if you have handed over any money or performed any requested tasks) and to the fraud center in your country of residence.